/adv/ — Cut off all contact after break-up?

>>34613830 (OP)
You made the right call for you. Some people can remain friends after breaking up, but others don't want to or can't. You clearly stated why you didn't want to remain friends and took the steps to break off completely. You did what was right for you, nothing wrong there

>>34613830 (OP)
>did I make the right call?
If it's what you want, it's the right call.

>>34613830 (OP)
i think that before you tell her you don't want to be friends,or before you completely cut off contact, you should wait a while. a few weeks or a month, do what you normally do, your hobbies, seeing your friends or family if you have any, going to work. think things over.
this seems to have happened to you recently, and is still fresh in your mind and the feelings are raw and it is probably very painful for you. so i am sorry.
wait a while until you make a rash decision.
but yes, it will be painful seeing her with new guys and stuff. i think that it is ultimitely the best thing to do to cut off contact, but not in a mean way. dont tell her you hate her or whatever, but explain why you are doing it, because you still have feelings for her and care for her deeply and it will be very painful for you to continue things as friends, if she saw this post even, she would almost definitely understand.
sorry to hear all this anon. i am in a similar situation. my gf broke up with me, after i tried to many times, and she doesnt want to continue things as friends (which i really wanted), basically because of the reasons you give. i didnt know how good i had it. i took her for granted and fell out of love and made no effort to make things good again. but whatever we should move on.
time heals all things, even if means death decades down the line, that at least takes away the pain.
it is very fresh in my memory and i feel slightly better each day. but ofc sometimes the wound becomes fresh again and takes longer to heal.
sorry again anon.

>>34613830 (OP)
whether you made the right call or not is not the question you should be asking. what’s done is done. is this your true break out moment where you analyze every moment of what just happened with her and use it to rise like a phoenix from the ashes? or are you going to linger on it and regress? this is where chads and made… or where betas buck

>>34613830 (OP)
>sick of having to teach me what to do
so she expects you to read her mind? even if one girl "teaches you what to do" it will work well only with her. sure, there's some common denominator, but in the end every person is different and what makes one person happy can put another one off entirely.
any examples what she taught you?

>>34613946
yeah OP's gf is very mean.
she implied she has been in other relationships before him, or at least one. girls who have been in many relationships, and have had many short term partners, are not the kind of girls you wanna be in a long term relationship with.
if you meet a girl and she is like this, and you try to have a long term relationship with her, it wont work out, and both of you will be hurt.
it happened with me, it happens to dozens of others.
but simps and white knights dont believe this. 'the past is the past! her past doesnt matter! dont slut shame!!!' bla bla bla.
we are in a sad state of affairs. sorry this happened to you, and to me too, and anyone else who has gone through something like this.
it is not your fault that the relationship didnt work. the reasons she gave were stupid reasons. if she was a virgin before you or had a very low body count, she would have fought tooth and nail to make this work.
sorry anon and to anyone else reading this who has gone through things similar (including myself). i hope you have good futures.

>>34613830 (OP)
You're hurt, legitimately, and bitter, legitimately, and over-reacting, probably. Certainly avoid her for a while, but leave open in your mind the possibility that somewhere down the line you two can find a way to be friends. Friends - or just people we have a past in common with - are not so abundantly available that we can afford to discard them impulsively

>>34613830 (OP)
You did the right thing. You should do the same to women who reject you and people who slight you in any way as well. Never let anyone piss on you and tell you it's raining.

>>34613830 (OP)
Sounds like you made the right call. Nothing to worry about.

>>34613830 (OP)
You made the right decision. She's getting fomo and wanting to try out other people to see what's out there and then coming back to you used up if she falls on her face. She wants to keep the door open out of selfishness, not thinking of you.

>>34613956
eh, can men and women really be friends? especially someone you were in a realtionship with so you're definitely mutually attracted to? sounds like only she can benefit from such an arrangement if she's the one breaking up, because this "friendship" is actually just her way of keeping her options open for her convenience.

>>34613946
It's bullshit. It doesn't matter the reason she gives, she clearly wants to keep riding the dick carousel before she is ready to settle down but can't come out and say it like that so she will give whatever bullshit reason to save face. It's 2026, women get hit on by hundreds of men from all sides, they will never settle young and before they are all used up.

>>34613830 (OP)
Ur such a retard dude she wanted friends with benefits stop being a dramatic cry baby life isn't some naruto amv where he's crying in the rain and music is playing u fucking faggot god dude u should have just parlayed your friendship into friends with benefits manlets when will they learn fuckig npaieet nigger

>>34613830 (OP)
>did I make the right call?
Absolutely.

>>34613916
>yada yada yada
Shut the fuck up.