/adv/ — How can I get some SLEEP?

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>>34617885 (OP)
Have you tried complaining about it?

>>34617885 (OP)
Ear plugs?

>>34618034
You do not understand, I can still hear them even with ear plugs.
And when I do manage to fall asleep, they will drop something loudly or knock on my door, it is like a bad joke.

My grasp on reality is slipping and the days are blurring together

Sorry but you have to get away.
You have to, I don't care what your situation is, even if you suck dicks for rent, psychologically it's gonna be better for you and you'll accept that shit way better than family torment. There is nothing worse than family torment, because you can't combat it directly. You'll always be the villan for complaining about your family WHILE living with your family. Always, and that's a literal fucking cosmic LAW. You will have to get away as soon as possible and make that a life priority that goes above anything else, even if "momma is sick and dying". Tough luck, I'm gonna help momma on the side, meanwhile I got my own place.

>>34618064
Good quality soft-foam earplugs, correctly inserted, should still get the volume down to a level that you can sleep through it.

>>34618064
>And when I do manage to fall asleep, they will drop something loudly or knock on my door, it is like a bad joke.
How do they know when you fall asleep?

>>34618064
And if ear plugs are not enough, wear ear defenders over them. If that's still not enough, use headphones and play white or pink noise to drown out the sound.

>>34618121
That is my goal, and I really am trying to lock in, but I am always so tired and spaced-out.
And my mother has hated me since I was born, so nothing really holding me back from making the big exit if the chance were to present itself.

>>34618138
I usually tell them that I am going to sleep, or a tleast trying to sleep if they are being noisy

>>34618236
A mother who hates a child is a reflection of failure on her part not you. She's a fucking loser I'd treat her like shit if I were u, any mother that brings someone out of the void and into the world because ur a fucking slut faggot and then rejects that child should be abused by that child and can die painfully because the damage you do to a kid like that is insane and I imagine ur family are ignorant spic retards who breed because "that's just what you do"

>>34618391
Yeah more or less. My dad is a race mixing spineless democrat (white hispanic), my mom is a BPDemon latina, and I am a sleep deprived abomination with no real emotions or connections to this world. I feel nothing towards her, but I suspect that her hate is mostly because she had me when she was young and blames me for 'ruining her freedom' and that I apparently sort of look and behave like her father. I don't know, it is exhausting though.

>>34618378
>I usually tell them that I am going to sleep, or a tleast trying to sleep if they are being noisy
Then stop doing that.

>>34618458
I have learnt my lesson the hard way desu

>>34618236
The chance will never present itself. You will have to buttfuck creation itself and force it. Leave absolutely nothing to chance, force that shit, make it your top priority. Your reply is already too soft, right now I this instant there is nothing more important in your life than moving out. I'm being serious man, your continued existence depends on it. You're doing more harm than good by spending another fucking minute there, and I'm speaking from direct experience.
You don't have to wait because opportunity will never present itself, you have to move out and figure things on the way as they come, because waiting for chance will never get you anywhere. Like I said chance never comes, even if you have zero cash, just pack your shit and go and figure things out. Beg a fucking landlord to keep you for 3 months and find a minimum wage job at a supermarket. I promise anything will be better than being in that house another minute.
I'm speaking from direct lived experience, I've been homeless, I've been at dinner tables with top EU politicians, I've lived in a shelter, I've lived in a rent in one of the biggest and most expensive cities in the world, I've been everywhere simply because I hated my home, still do. When I heard my dad talk with his mistress on the phone when mom was at work and he tgouui was asleep, that's when I knew living at home ain't for me chief

>>34617885 (OP)
Get a noisy ass fan.

The other option besides getting out is beating the shit out of everyone in your home until they're all walking on eggshells in fear of another spontaneous and unavoidable ass whooping as a result of disturbing the beast. This is a very large gamble though because it sounds like your family is unstable and they may not make the causal link of "being a piece of shit = ass beating" and instead might just get high and stab you in your sleep or call their friends to beat you up.

>>34617885 (OP)
Ear plugs, brown noise filter, and sound deadening.

Avoid ear plugs that go into your ear because leaving them in overnight will give you infections. Get the silicone ones that you stick on your ear. Also make sure you clean your ears before putting them on. It'll take longer for them to get nasty in that case.

If you have anything that can play an 8 hour long brown noise filter, that'll be good.
Try to find one that's close to the same frequency that the noise coming into your room.

Also try to deaden the sound in your room. Fill the air gaps in your door. You can get sound deadening caulk for the door jams, and you can get a pad for the bottom gap.
If you have the the money, get sound deadening panels and drill them into your wall. If you don't have money, then get heavy blankets.

>>34618064
return the favour. make violent loud noise when they go to bed.

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I think that yo had a very bad time

>>34618604
I respect this philosophy and your advice certainly gives me hope. Better to think about getting out with a 'nothing to lose' mindset than continuing to cope. I am not sure how much longer I can cope with this shit.
It is the dead of the night and they have brought some friends over to drink and be loud.

Fuck my life.

>>34618833
That is a quick way to make them snarky and passive-aggresive which I absolutely do not have the patience for anymore

>>34617885 (OP)
get off computer 3hrs before bed
don't eat 3hr before bed
take a warm shower before bed
read in bed for 1hr before shutting off lights
those meme eyebag things

>>34620797
soldiers get used to sleeping during war, you'll adapt to the noise OP

>>34620800
My threshold for tolerating their noise is reducing itself daily.
Also, soldiers do not have to deal with Spics.
fml

>>34620742
Copes are really only bandaid on a fucking gunshot. Your copes are only keeping your life together with spittle and prayers, they're only there to prevent you to kill yourself which if I'm being honest, would be an improvement in your life.
Do you really don't have a job? Don't give me studying excuse, even if you're studying really seriously at the top university, it's really not worth it if you're killing yourself from lack of sleep and psychological damage. That psychological damage and pressure building up will do more harm to you than if you quit university right now, got a shitty job, moved out and lived off stale bread alone. That constant mental tension literally kills you as we speak, which is where my advice comes into play:
Freeze your studies. Literally go to the school secretary, tell them you can't continue for about a year due to family problems. They will understand, I've legit quit school and I had them calling me to go back even 2 years later. They need students, they won't kick you for freezing a year.
Next in line is get ANY JOB. And stick to that job, don't quit, don't complain if it gets too hard. Never help anymore, never talk to anyone, you only do strictly your job, get your salary and that's it. Do not waste more than the minimum required amount of effort and mental energy on that job than required to get the salary.
By this point you're eligible to move the fuck away from your family. Rent the cheapest place possible even if it means to beg the landlord, fuck dignity. Your dignity left with your family back home. Also no roommates, they will be worse.
After all that is done, you can resume your studies but by that point you'll probably realize they're useless and a waste of resources.
I'll be monitoring the thread tomorrow, I hope you reply man

>>34621398
This reply has definitely helped me to organize my thoughts in regards to my studies, but my brain is mushy right now, so I will give you a proper response tomorrow/later. Sorry

>>34617885 (OP)
Immediate family or extended?

>>34621680
Irrelevant.
Familyfags are the same

>>34621671
The most important takeaway is "fuck dignity"
You should believe your dignity as the number one strongest, most pervasive and tightest chain around your neck. People will do anything to "save their dignity" which in turns makes actually dignified people cringe and look away. True dignity is following your own path. I'm talking from direct lived experience, right now your biggest issue is not family, not not having money, not even moving away. Your biggest issue is seeing other things as more important than yourself. Things like "finishing studies" which really mean NOTHING if you're dying as a result of seeing those studies finishes. What's the purpose of those studies? What will they help you achieve? Because let me save you some time and money, dream job doesn't exist. Finished or unfinished studies, that shit is a pipe dream. Yes, I'm a true advocate of quitting school. At least in our case, people like me and you. Right now, doing studies will only kill you,

>>34621671
>>34621691
And I keep repeating the mantra "fuck dignity" because I know what you're thinking, I can read your mind. You're above washing toilets, you're above "abandoning your family" even though you're doing a worse sin not honoring them, than just leaving the fuck away without a word. You're above quitting school, you see your studies as very important, you see your future as something very serious and important even though you have no future, not in that household anyway. You're above renting or even having a precarious living situation, you're above begging and pleading. I'm not saying you should ever do those things, God forbid, but I'm saying that in those lowly undignified situations, the truest character is forged. The most important thing right now is to literally just fucking freeze your studies and get a job. That should be your number 1, 2 and 3 priority above all else, I would say even above eating. You won't eat until you've managed to talk to the secretary and freeze your studies, and managed to get an interview going. By day 3 you'll be in that supermarket stacking produce and sneaking in some food items.

And for the record, I'm not saying studies aren't important. They are ideally, but you are not living an ideal existence. The mental pressure and psychological torment you're going through are too much for you to focus on study and schooling. You need to get away from that environment first before you have the mental space to think clearly about your next move. Right now, you can't do that.

>>34621719
Please tell me the general steps of what you did to get out of your situation, so I can also take steps towards moving out.
I will have days where the brainfog subsides and I can more or less get things done, like today, so I want to make a spreadsheet of things I need to get out of here.
I do not know if I can last another week.

Start tiring your body to.the point you just sleep through everything. I worked a construction gig one year while living next door to party animal neighbors, never heard a thing after getting home 12 hours of jack hammering

>>34626057
I have tried that in the past, and still was not able to sleep even after doing construction work, and I even snapped at my boss once.
I am not sure if I will ever make it with this fucked up hand that I have been dealt.

>>34626319
Load up on tryptophan or eat alot of turkey. The other solutions that could work is working out until you're too exhausted to stay awake or drinking every night til you black out, last thing is sleeping pills. A relative of mine takes zzz-quil and he sleeps through everything for 8 hrs straight

>>34626042
First thing I did was learn 2 other languages aside from my native one. Americans have this debuff that they're never forced to be bilingual or even trilingual, but Europeans or Asians always know at the very least 2 languages. And I mean legit learn the language and take the language exams, because that attests your language skills. It's a paper that literally says this guy knows this language, and many jobs that can hire foreigners will NOT unless you know the language and also will NOT invest time and money into you. So if you show up knowing the language, you're already above everyone else.
My suggestion is French/Spanish/German and Mandarin.
But this is just a general life hack.

In your specific situation, really the most important thing is to freeze your studies and genuinely get them out of your mind and space and don't leak energy that way for at least 1 full year. Your main issue is that you're leaking too much potential energy on the topic of studies, even though they're a literal black hole. A sink that nets you nothing in return. So that would be the most immediate thing that you must do today.
Call your school and appoint a meeting and TELL them what you're going to do. Your top priority is to get away from this sinking ship and get your life in order. Schooling ain't it in 2026, you need hard experience and hard skills.
After you have freezed your studies, get a job. Any job will do, because it unlocks a constant flow of cash and makes you reliable. Next step is to find a place to move the fuck away. No roommates, even if the commute is 1h straight, it's way better. I've had 2 to 3 hours commutes in fucking Germany and it was still worth it.
And now the cherry on top, hop on that language train. Pick a language, learn it and do the exams, and find any job within that sphere. Ideally start with call centers in that language dealing with that foreign country customers. It pays above anything else you'd get without your studies.

>>34626762
For now, I will prioritize getting a meeting with the school to pause the studies or just drop it. I'll look for employment while arranging this meeting with them.
What do you think about night shift work, that seems to be my only option at the moment and might actually work with my broken sleep schedule instead of against it, that and I will be able to avoid my family more often.

As for languages, I already taught myself Spanish as a kid from reading books and playing video-games in Spanish, along with actually speaking it to my Mother's family on the phone whenever I could, but had no idea about these language exam certificates. I will definitely look into sitting one of these exams just to have something else under my belt, but I have never really benefited from having taught myself Spanish other than being able to understand Spanish documentaries and read Spanish books.

I have also considered learning another language last year when I was not as exhausted as as I am now, but I ended wasting months comparing multiple languages and even making spreadsheets to compare the usefulness of the languages, the total amount of global speakers, the easiness to learn and all sorts of other things. I never did up learning another language.
Your reply has helped me to narrow down my choices, but I am still not sure if there is a language in particular from those 4 that may be more useful to me in my situation.