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/adv/ — Is she not interested or just awkward?
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Is she not interested or just awkward?Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)15:24:14
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A girl at work stares at me like picrel. What does she mean by this?
For context, she's a foreigner, but we've been working together for three years now. I tried to talk to her last year, but she told me she doesn't speak any Czech, and this remains the only thing I've ever heard her say. We started interacting more after her recent change of position. It's purely work, but she still just stares and doesn't speak, smile, or really react in any way. The most I got out of her was a nod after I gave her instructions in quasi-Russian.
She always seemed somewhat withdrawn. She wouldn't speak unless spoken to and would spend breaks alone, though I've stopped monitoring her since our "conversation" last year revealed her inaccessibility. Foreman told me that's just the way she is, and I can see that she doesn't treat others much differently.
The thing is, as an introvert myself, I find her quite intriguing. She's also very attractive. But I can't tell whether this is her baseline or whether she doesn't want to talk to me. I locked onto her only after another girl who talked to me quit, and after another girl who talked to me (a lot) stopped (after I got the wrong idea). I rely on positive feedback a lot, and I'm not getting any from her. Her only display of emotion was when I offered her candy. She rejected, but smiled to show her braces.
What do you think? Should I continue until I break the ice? Or should I stop before I embarrass myself?
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)15:38:15
>>34623890 (OP)
>What does she mean by this?
It means she finds you revolting but is to polite to actually say it. Either that, or you are in a position of authority and it would be detrimental to her if she did express her disgust
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)16:24:25
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>>34623890 (OP)
I would say just play it cool. You can still be kind, courteous, warm and supportive without ever stepping lines into desperation or embarrassment.
Maintaining emotional control is what attracts women, they are very emotional creatures and they will guard this sacred space until you indirectly convince them that you will provide a safe energy that they can trust you with consistantly.
Make a woman feel comfortable with her emotional realm and she will slowly be drawn to you. Now with the eye contact, that's really different for cultures and demographics but part of human psychology is body language. Eye contact would fall under this category.
We as humans subconsciously interpret body language but if you put it into facts it turns things into framework instead of guess work.
Typically 1-3 seconds of sustained eye contact is polite/societal norm/acknowledgment.
3-8 seconds sustained indicates attraction/curiosity, anything over 9 seconds is considered obsessive or confrontational.
There are plenty of other indicators, open body pressure, pupil dialation, mirroring, blood pressure elevating body heat which could be indicated through "preening" (adjusting her hair to reveal her neck can be a very telling sign when paired with other indicators).
Like I said, play it cool. Be a good man that extends your honest heart and do right by humanity and everything you need will come to you as it should. Blessings to you.
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)16:46:58
>>34623890 (OP)
> A girl at work stares at me like picrel.
She probably views you as a threat.
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)18:22:29
What ever language she speaks(Russian?) just learn: "Will you help me learn some Russian, I'm very interested." and see if she will teach you some every day. Like work on a word or phrase once a day on your collective breaks or lunch. Don't worry about her learning your language this way she doesn't have to work hard. If she says no she's just sizing you up to eat you like anons say. >>34624043 >>34623960
If she says yes it's a sign she wants to fuck up. You can claim the language lessons are to help you two better communicate at work. But if she agrees be super professional and feel the situation out. If she really wants to fuck you she will give you obvious signs, if she does not give you obvious signs she might just be lonely and/or polite.
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)18:25:45
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>>34623960
She would kill to fuck me?
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)18:52:00
>>34624000
>I would say just play it cool.
It's hard for me to be a jester. I made friends with the two aforementioned girls this year, but I didn't have to pursue them - we happened to be near and just started talking. They knew some Czech, but even people who don't respond when I talk to them, especially about work. This girl is the only one who doesn't.
>Now with the eye contact,
It's not that she's actively staring at me. It's that whenever we interact, all she does is stare at me.
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)19:01:53
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>>34624043
>She probably views you as a threat.
I never said I wasn't. I made a couple of threads about her last year.
>https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/33324854/#33324854
There was no organic way for me to talk to her, so I left fruit on her desk, hoping she'd track it back to me. She didn't.
>https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/33641208/#33641208
Then I observed her toilet breaks and tried to "accidentally" bump into her. It failed as well, but we had that one "conversation" soon after.
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Anonymous06/14/26(Sun)19:21:34
>>34624328
That's not a bad idea, but I don't think I have the confidence to pull it off. I was actually thinking about learning Russian to see if it'd make her engage more. But that's a lot of work for a chance...
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Anonymous06/15/26(Mon)11:05:09
>>34623890 (OP)
She’s Russian? You’re a Slav you should know resting Slav bitch face unless you’re one of the super Americanized ones that just doesn’t know how Slav girls are. Just tell her you’re set to inherit your grandmothers chickens soon or you know someone who can get high quality fake Prada bags.
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Anonymous06/15/26(Mon)11:40:57
>>34623890 (OP)
She doesn't know what is being said mostly nor can she make herself understood by most of her coworkers. Its hard as hell so no wonder she doesn't speak much nor respond.
But OP a woman speaking to you at work is no cause to get excited.
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Anonymous06/15/26(Mon)14:50:32
>>34626659
>She’s Russian?
Moldovan.
>You’re a Slav you should know resting Slav bitch face
Of course, I do, I'm Czech, so I look at her the same way. But when I start talking, I expect at least some reaction from her.
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Anonymous06/15/26(Mon)14:57:15
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>>34626680
>She doesn't know what is being said mostly nor can she make herself understood by most of her coworkers.
Except that most of her coworkers are from her country (or Ukraine), and therefore speak Russian. If she were the only foreign girl in here, we'd probably be married by now.
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Anonymous06/15/26(Mon)15:01:48
>>34623890 (OP)
>Is she not interested?
yES, she is not interested. don't come on to her.
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