/d/ — femdom thread

Can anyone here recommend a set of bondage mittens? I got a ultra cheap set to try and they have instantly become my favorite piece of gear. Any that won't break the bank but made of real stiff leather and keep my hands in fists?

>>11527792
Not him. Find a local munch on Fetlife. Make friends. Do NOT attempt to find a play partner at your first munch because this will make you look like a creep. You probably shouldn't even talk about kink at your first munch unless you are asked about it. Kink talk at munches is unusual in my experience. You'll find out about parties like that through the community.

>>11527792
>>11527815
Will elaborate with some copy/pasted text I posted here many years ago. Context is I went to my first munch as a broke, socially awkward motherfucker with no car and social anxiety who isn't even good looking, met my eventual domme there, and started playing with her two months after meeting her. If I can do this, so can you.
Go on Fetlife. Find a local munch. Behave like a decent human being at said munch. Don't be an asshole. Don't treat others like fantasy fulfillment vessels. Show interest in others outside of the bedroom. Get to know people well as friends outside of the bedroom. Don't be lewd and vulgar with people you just meet. Don't be an asshole. Don't be "that creepy guy." Make as many FRIENDS as you can; people of both sexes, both tops and bottoms, even if you're straight and not a switch. Keep going to munches and educational events to meet new people. If you do get to the stage with someone where you begin to discuss play, be as interested in fulfilling their kinks, if not moreso, than fulfilling your own. Relationships are give and take whether you're the dom or the sub.
Just go there with the goal of making friends, not finding someone to play with. Munches are not singles' nights and they are not to be treated as such. If you show up obviously treating the munch like a giant potential dating pool, you'll look like a creep and will probably not successfully integrate into the community.
If you just go there with the goal of making friends, everyone will be super warm and welcoming, you'll make friends, those friends will introduce you to more friends, etc., and you'll probably, over time, find someone to play with like this. Let this happen naturally and don't force it.
Don't be afraid to make friends with people much older than you. They can become valuable educational resources to you.

>>11527826
Munches are big dinners where you socialize with people. Discussion topics are typically not kink-related. They're where people go to meet other kinky people and show people they're not creeps. They are not designed to be mixers. They are not designed to be a place where you go just to find a partner to play with.
They are designed to weed out the creeps who show up and immediately start hitting on women and talking lewd.
You find a partner by introducing yourself to the community at a munch, behaving like a non-creep, making friends at the munch, then going to local events with those friends. You become a part of the community like this and THEN once the community sees for an extended period of time you're not a fucking creep, maybe you'll find a partner.
Most men in the kink scene fuck up either by being lewd/vulgar too soon, not showing any interest in others outside of kink or showing too much interest in fulfilling their own kinks and not enough in fulfiling others'.

>>11489914
this was amazing, femdom version of instant loss