Goal of the thread: Consider the things you want to improve or accomplish, whether long- or short-term. What small steps can you make towards those goals? Daily goals can be repeated. Remember to keep score, it can only go up!
>What is this thread for? Getting better is hard, and sucks. A lot. It does not get easier doing it alone. Share resources and experiences with combating depression, anxiety, personal issues, achieving or maintaining a healthy weight, etc. >Why is this thread /lgbt/? Struggles with mental and physical health are an indisputable part of /lgbt/ life, be it from dysphoria, social pressure, heartbreak, or just unfortunate lifestyle choices. >Notes to consider: Please be civil. Shame is your greatest enemy in fighting urges of self abuse (be it sh, drugs, or just self deprecation). Relapsing into bad and unhealthy habits is to be expected, the goal is to increase the average amount of time it takes between relapses. Any improvement is a victory no matter how small. Your worth and right to get better are non-negotiable. And most importantly: WE ARE NOT THERAPISTS, WE DON'T REPLACE MEDICATION >Note on advice Generic advice won't necessarily help you in particular, but for those it does it is an essential foundation to build future progress on, not a miracle cure. Do not underestimate the effects subtle changes to your lifestyle can have. Try first, keep us posted on your progress, build from there.
We are *always* short on self help resources, so if anything was useful to you, let us know! Since the OP is getting too long I moved all resources into their own post, see below!
## RESOURCE LINKS:
Resource link paste: https://rentry.co/sig-resources-2025-07 General advice from Anons: https://rentry.co/sig-tips-2024-04 Posts from other sites (markdown format): https://rentry.co/sig-posts-2024-04
Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!
- prepare 1 load of laundry - do 1 load of laundry - read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off - cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish - eat a meal - pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes - make your bed - if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example) - do the dishes for 3 minutes - write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw) - Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in) - Open your window for 10-20 minutes - try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish) - take out the trash - drink a glass of water - put one item of trash in the bin - reach out to an online contact (perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!) - BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)
Unofficial group chats maintained by kind anons of /sig/: IRC: presently defunct afaik. Discord: https://discord.gg/pUuXdBjKX2
>>43730225 Lower the carbs a tiny bit and sleep more.
00
Anonymous05/28/26(Thu)20:05:42
>>43730225 It would help for you to tell us about why you’ve been binge eating. Do you binge eat to self-soothe, when you’re bored, or because you agonize over trying to lose weight?
From what I can tell, the solutions kind of differ depending on your triggers.
00
Anonymous05/28/26(Thu)20:38:19
>>43728153(OP) I love your silly little pictures allways so cute and nice to look at :D ill reply later for now picture appriciationing only
00
Anonymous05/28/26(Thu)21:38:13
do you know that meme that says guy who thought he had lost all hope loses additional hope that he didn't even know he had? yeah that's been me lately tbqh
>>43731791 Do you want to elaborate on what all is bothering you or do you want to stick to talking about the more general challenge of staying hopeful in these times?
>>43735860 sweet stuff ngl. i had under 14 bmi from arfid and the only way i was able to eat enough to gain weight was biscuits, dried fruit, chocolate, and stuff like that. not so healthy but better than starving, and once you gained some weight you dont need to stay in calorie surplus to keep it.
00
Anonymous05/29/26(Fri)07:45:45
>>43735875 you will also get used to eating more. but it takes time. just keep at it, keep eating big enough meals and also often enough.
Panty here again. As I mentioned in the last thread, I recently started reading a graphic novel every day, after a few weeks of reading part of a graphic novel almost every day. I’m not saying these are especially long or difficult books to read, but I bought them intending to read them and I’m glad I started making the time.
Most recently I read two volumes of Athena Voltaire, this Indiana Jones knockoff comic series. I commend the writer for coming up with treasures based on real history and mythology, but the main character is severely lacking in main character energy. Her name is the most interesting thing about her. She’s a pilot for hire who flies around archaeologists and secret agents who are actually looking for treasure. That’s a good setup, but I needed her to stand out more and be more important to the plot than she ultimately was. And the art has this persistent quality of being not quite there. This cover where it looks like she’s got a lazy eye is a good example.
I enjoyed reading Athena Voltaire, but I’m also glad to have two more books I feel good about getting rid of and some stuff to look up on Wikipedia.
>>43733837 For what it's worth, I'm sorry ppl were mean to you last thread (even tho I understand the complaints) I hope you and /k/ girl can keep in touch trough more appropriate channels.
>>43739055 I hope you reconsider anon. There's nothing to gain by giving up! Unless you're happy the way you are.
>If they fucked off, do they still bill you? I mean I don't see why you should feel obligated to pay for a service you did not receive. no this isn't the West where parents will kick you out when you reached 18. at least they have some semblance of face to try get their child up and running, no matter how traumatic the child will suffer.
>Punishment doesn't work usually, I have a suggestion though. Either set a date in the coming days at which you grocery shop and grab one in one fell swoop or "punish yourself" by just ordering one online and be done with it. stationary and writing supplies aren't a problem, there are a lot of notebooks which only get used for the first 10 pages and then get abandoned. I could repurpose them but it's not like I am in short of writing supplies myself.
> So you were on the run. This is not the kinda situation where you are in a stable environment with a lot of ability to plan and build a future from a solid foundation. Do you feel like your current situation is as unstable? I think you deserve tons of grace under such circumstances. Not really but I rather take the previous arrangement where I am strapped of money but basically have all the time in this world to my own, rather living like a gilded prisoner.
>I assume you might feel like you are easily overwhelmed? In that case the most important thing you might need to learn to have an easier time to accept imperfection is to break down problems into small stepped solutions. You know, a single line on a canvas is much less daunting and has far looser expectations we can project onto than a whole picture. How could I convince myself to plan for stuff that doesn't pay in the short term? I used to "run with scissors" where I would just "plan haphazardly" on the spot. (cont.)
> > >Yes, self deception is a huge issue with it. The issue is: you will not escape this without discomfort. One thing you will find is that, unfortunately, discomfort will in all of this be a compass for you to point to progress. You will have to unlearn some things, and it will take you to do things you do not "want", even though you do want their outcome. >Would yo believe me that I feel your pain of having to work against yourself to escape hell? Trust me, I don't want to exhaust you, and I will not make you take big steps or things that are going to be miserable or cause you to break down. All change must be sustainable. But I believe in structured approaches.
> >Maybe next time I will answer this? it's already hard for me to come out with the rest of the question
>Take all the time you need, okay? Okay, so basically when I was on the run I tried getting a tourist visa to asylum, got rejected, spent the next 2 years getting a job to pay the bills, during that time and two years after that spend my time learning a skilled practice that might have gotten me a overseas work and a visa which I would probably claim asylum there, which sadly I gotten caught first so, the last year or so I have been literally doing nothing but doing some suckass job my childhood abuser tried to give me because they're not self-aware enough to know they are the root of the problem, yet dared to question why they raised such a tragic child.
00
Anonymous05/30/26(Sat)07:39:03
>>43746902 i really feel filthy have to pretend playing house with people I barely care or I actively get disgusted for robbing my years. AND SOMEHOW IT'S MY PROBLEM, NOT THEIRS. HELLO? YOU'RE THE ONE WHO CAUSED THIS. AT LEAST LEARN TO BE SELF AWARE AND TAKE SOME RESPONSIBILITY
00
Anonymous05/30/26(Sat)10:50:10
>>43744308 Dark froms came to me. Whispering of unspeakable atrocities.