/n/ — Do you guys ever have conversations with other people on pub

I feel like people's guards are up very high on public transport, especially Short journeys. I only really find convos starting on extremely long coach trips, and not often. Although, if there's some big bullshit disruption or delay people open up a lot to try and cope (and seeth) I guess

>>2012325 (OP)
I think people only generally talk to you here if they're actively dying or trying to scam you

>>2012343
I think it's even worse in modern times where basically everyone is just sitting there on their phone with headphones in, and even ones staring out the window have headphones in so there's really no opportunity to even talk to people without it disturbing them.

There's a beautful girl I see on the subway every morning, she sits in the same car, in aroudn the same window seat, with headphones in not looking at her phone much but always staring out the window. Even if I got a seat next to her (it's always standing room only by the time I get on), there's no in to talk to someone like that.

>>2012325 (OP)
No, go touch grass and get a hobby no one wants to pity a conversation with some rando

>>2012325 (OP)
Years ago, a girl and I kept exchanging glances on a bus, eventually she sat down next to me. The bus was almost completely empty. Of course, I was too much of a bitch to do anything and just got off when my stop came up. But I don't think this is something that happens regularly and you probably shouldn't be hitting on women on the bus.

>>2012497
>>2012534
Absolutely agree (doesn’t just have to be about women). Just feels like riding transportation is a boring event where being around people you could talk to them, not to mention if you get on or off at the same stop, knowing you live near those people so that could be a shared experience where you could easily meet these people to do things with. But then again it’s like being forced into a situation with someone that they can’t escape from

I dunno, seems like some people might have been open to it back in the day before everyone just had phones and earbuds to use

>>2012325 (OP)
Usually people just want to be left alone from what I understand when they are on public transport. Imagine: would you want to be bothered by some arse when you are tired and coming back from a long day of work: I wouldn't think so.

Only with whites

>>2012487
I saw a documentary about the criminality in my city in the 80s that had a few subway scenes in it. People spontaneously talked to strangers and made friendships there. Some people befriended each other just because they shared the same route every morning. I've shared the same route with some people my age for three years, and I've never talked to them

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My experiences have been diverse. For example, at a long ride, I was sitting next to this young woman (my age) and she fell asleep. When we arrived to the station, I whispered that we arrived. She woke up and began talking, eventually getting her insta. The irony is that we actually became friends. I was already married by then, prolly that mattered. But it was strange how easy we became real friends. On other rides, i’ve met drunk girls (younger than me). I tried helping them, and from those two cases, one we were talking all the way to where she lived and the other she even gave me her whatsapp. I usually talk to women instead of men. My wife says it’s because of the way I am, that I don’t like being around guys. She even messes with me about that. But most of the cases it happens like all of you describe… people glued to screens. I don’t use any screen when riding public transportation. For several reasons, one being that I like to enjoy the moment by just seeing people. Also, to be alert from any problems. That also opens a pandora box of people approaching me to talk. Sometimes it’s ok but sometimes it’s people I don’t want to talk to. I don’t like to talk to ugly people, needy people, or certain tourists. I like to talk to people that are different than me, people with real questions, women, or people that carry cool stuff with them.

my experience with socializing on public transportation is the perfect allegory to the rest of my asocial, lonely life. i dont ride buses or commuter trains, only the subway. but even being around these people every day, weeks, months, some of them YEARS, ive still never spoken a word to a single person. not even a hello. ride with people for half an hour a day, still dont talk to them

the morning is a crapshoot, but in the afternoon theres a massive flow of people who all get off. all people who obviously live somewhere in my small city. an easy way right off the bat to have something in common with these people, and even have the benefit of living near each other to theoretically make it easy to meet these people in our free time. but instead i do nothing. i watch as these people leave. i watch as people get picked up by their gf/bf/wife/husband, kids, dog in the car. and i get even more miserable.

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>>2013333

>>2013333
Your wife is a cuck

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>>2012325 (OP)
No, I almost always have my IEMs on and look outside.
Sometimes I translate Ukie/Pidorashka excuses for riding without a Ticket or tell them which train/bus to get on and a few times random guys invited me over to booze lol

>>2015546
I wonder what this person looks like

>>2015580
Cityslicker minus the fancy German car

>>2012325 (OP)
>Do you guys ever have conversations with other people on public transportation, or try picking up girls there?
No, I assume anyone else on public transportation is just minding their own business and I don't try to pick up girls anywhere because I'm not a teenage incel who just read The Game for the first time

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>>2015580
>>2015620
No I am a German ruralfag schizo and I am cartoonishly handsome and blonde and that makes you a target if you go into any city over 50k residents. I multiple times had to go into full "I kill you-mode" in the last decade to save my ass. Thinking about getting chainmail actually.

Yeah I've had loads

>>2012325 (OP)
Bro this is the fastest way to ordering up a 2 piece combo so I hope you are fucking hungry when you attempt this.

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>>2012325 (OP)
Probbably a bit biased, as I work as a conductor for the Czech railways, but I often try to get into into conversations with the passangers to make their trip better or more interesting. Usually when I meet a fellow colleague or a railfan on my train, we start talking about the situation on my train and about anything railway and work related.

As for when I travel as a passanger, the "coupe" compartment design (pic related) usually helps, as when few people are in this relatively small compartment, they get talking much quicker.

>>2018965
Looks like a cute little super spreader chamber

I do but I don't let it go beyond the train.

>>2012325 (OP)
Only in Japan. If you're a non-intimidating looking white guy and reveal that you speak the language you'll pretty much instantly have a bunch of new friends and that's especially true on a train where everybody's bored. I even dated a girl I met that way.

>>2012325 (OP)
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I think liberals mostly take transit are allergic to conversation.

>>2018965
That’s very nice of you, průvodčíanon. I always enjoy seeing commuters and stewards having a chat together.

>>2013545
You're not invisible. They know who you are. You think that's nothing? You're physically present.

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>>2018965
Forgot to mention, what always gets people talking are delays. Normally, everyone minds their own business, but when my train is delayed, I go through all my cars and ask (more like shout across the entire carriage) if anyone has any connections they would miss, so that I can talk to the dispatcher to hopefully make the connecting train wait.
Like this, people who share a connection suddenly get a shared identity, they start talking about where they are going and generally are much more likely to start a conversaiton. I have seen many conversations start like this, old grandmas talking with students who are going to the same town and many diffirent unexpected combinations of people.

>>2012325 (OP)
Hell no, I don't want to get involved with the people on the train, it's full of freaks. That's not even to mention the blacks.

>>2012325 (OP)
Go to the park

>>2020438
Very nice anon, respect.

Depends. On the train? Nope, prefer to use my TWS and listen to something. On the Bus? Yes.

>>2020438
I've had a very similar experience on a connecting flight from Richmond to NY, I spent the entire flight home talking to a couple of tourists. Even took them sightseeing in my home town a good decade before it got into all the tourist guides.
Might even be that we've met I had a guy shouting when my train to Praha got delayed while visiting for work.

I travel with brompton so usually sit inbetween cars on the little fold out seats to stay with my bike. The other week I was there for 2hrs with a young mother and her cute baby. We chatted the whole time as she was pretty much in the exact place with her husband that my wife and I were in 10 years ago. Told her things would get better financially. Also gave some of the pitfall advice I wish I had been given. She got sexually assaulted in a city in broad daylight when she was pregnant. UK is in trouble bros.

>>2012325 (OP)
No.

ill sometimes compliment people
on their bikes and like half the guys will take the compliment and chitchat, most girls will just think im
hitting on them

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>>2012325 (OP)
Yes I talk to people everyday in public transport, but sometimes I come off as a crazy person. I am very hyperactive and it has its ups and downs in socializing. I've needed trial and error to get intuition to read people who are positive to start rando conversation. I suggest to start with old people, because its hard to get ashamed even if you sperg.

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>>2018965
>>2020438
God bless you, based conducteranon. The world needs more people like you.

i listen to bill burr's podcast on my commute, and its funny to hear him give advice to guys who write in about wanting to meet women. he has said multiple times that he would talk to women on the subway in new york when he lived there, usually about the funny/crazy/annoying shit that happens on them, and he meta decent number of women to date on there, but this was back in the 90s/2000s.

compare that to the environment that im listening to the podcast in, on a subway where 90% of people just sit there with headphones on/in, scrolling thru or watching completely useless garbage to pass their half hour commute, where if you dared to attempt to speak to anyone the person would probably be on the subway police text/app to say how threatened they feel. it really blows my mind that we have this subway commute that lasts half an hour where most of us do jack shit, should be a perfect setting to alleviate the boredom by meeting someone, and yet thats frowned upon.

>>2024451
yeah but bill burrs social intelligence and charm is off the charts

all you need is a couple looks / smiles and then it's ok

>>2024451
typical useless advice from a boomer

>>2024466
>>2024476
obviously it was a much different time when bill was doing that and giving that advice. when everyone now has their ears plugged with headphones and eyes locked on a phone or computer, theyre actually doing something, unlike back then when people would jsut look ahead or look out the window. now f you ever want to talk to someone, you're taking their attention from something else

i know its really corny to want to meet someone on a subway, especially when you consider that if the person doesnt want to interact with you, theyre now stuck with you for another half hour. but it just really sucks. it should be such a great opportunity to meet people. you see them getting on/off at your home stop so you guys presumably live near each other, you have half an hour doing nothing to get to know them, you could even get their number and try to meet them for the ride back as well, have at least a few hours of conversation just on your work commute in a week.

i dont see how this is any weirder than meeting someone on a dating app, but i guess its completely frowned upon.

>>2024480
It's not frowned on and it's not impossible you just need eye contact a couple times and a smile first. That is a very soft and obvious way of getting someones approval to talk to them.

>>2024451
it's pretty common to see a man try to talk with a beautiful woman on the train, and in most cases they persist, and eventually she acknowledges his existence and gives a blank smile and does the bare minimum to confirm she is hearing what he is saying, while avoiding showing any emotional reaction. in about 1/4 of cases he says something disarming eventually to confirm he's not going to violently rape and murder her, and she relaxes. in other cases, he eventually tires of the badgering and pipes down

I'm not doubting that this bill bur guy "talked to women" successfully, but just in terms of basic odds, the odds are in favor of him frightening a random woman into pretending not to be scared/disgusted by him for a few minutes, and then moving on thinking he's a champion romeo seducer while she spends the next 20 minutes trying to get her heart rate to go back down

>>2024480
>i guess its completely frowned upon.
It's not you just need to be attractive, and more importantly don't be unattractive

There's a lot of beautiful young ladies on the train and it's clear they have no idea how many crazies there are out there, what some men would do to them. That's why when I see an attractive female, no matter what else I was doing, I make sure to get off at the same stop and follow her to where she's going, staying just out of sight so she doesn't feel like she owes me a debt of gratitude. Sometimes they're in a hurry and they'll start running but I am a powerful runner and I always easily keep up.

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>>2012325 (OP)
One time this really cute girl I had my eye on sat beside me on the bus despite having completely open seats available. I was debating whether if I should say something to her or if that would be weird but she had headphones on so I dropped the matter.
But the question still stands: would it be weird to make small talk with a girl you're interested in on the bus?

Yep, I’ve gotten some girl’s numbers on the train

>>2012325 (OP)
The train is my safe space. Fuck off. Niglets are already a problem, I don't want to hear you chuds whip out cringy pickup lines.

its just so devastating for me. i see all them and all i think about is how they probably have successful normal boyfriends/husbands/gf/wives and kids as well, have worthwhile jobs, have actual lives where they do activities and actually enjoy living. then theres me the guy who just stands in the corner of the door never smiling looking down at the floor. even guys or girls who get on with bikes, thats a talking point, a shared interest, maybe we can go on a ride together, i still just never speak to anyone.

>>2012325 (OP)
>See a hot girl sitting next to me on the bus
>"I like your dress"
>No response
>"I like your dress"
>"Okay"
>"Where are you going?"
>"To my boyfriend house" (i call it bullshit)
>"Okay i shut up dont worry"
Kind of expected result desu

>>2024480
>great opportunity to meet people.
You are implying that i have anything worth to be meet for, wich is false
>few hours of conversation
wtf do you want me to talk about for more than 15 minutes? I rather kill myself honestly

>>2033571
skill issue

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>>2033426
It depends on how attractive (tall) you are

>>2012325 (OP)
No, here on the buses in Connecticut only the vagrant scum takes the bus, I’ve never seen a regular woman on them, honestly a regular anybody it seems everybody is homeless or something I’ve seldom just seen a regular commuter on these. I rarely take them now and if i want to go somewhere I’ll just bike because the cities are so small here it’s quicker to just do that especially when it stops every 2 minutes when an obese vagrant wants to get on or off.

>>2015712
Black men aren’t going to not rob a handsome White man just because he’s handsome. I’m also cartoonishly handsome and it was super annoying going to a black high school and getting roasted even though I looked better than every single person there. I deserved some respect. They didn’t really roast me though since there was nothing to roast they’d just describe everything I do like “This nigga drinking milk”.

>>2012325 (OP)
One time in a Japan bus this cute girl joined my conversation and tried chatting me up. When It came my stop I got off & waved, while she looked at me stonestruck.

I think about that sometimes, and realize how much of a fucking idiot I am.
I bet she doesnt even remember me.

>>2012325 (OP)
don't you know anon?
trying to flirt with women in subways is sexual harassment
i don't want to be seen like those old Japanese chikaners who likes to grope teen girls